The lack of equality between spouses does not foster romantic love but rather deterioration of a relationship. Modern relationships are based on the formation of romantic love which dictates three requirements including equality between man and woman. Marriages where inequality is built into the foundation of the relationship crumble under its own weight. It is the dominance of one in a relationship that deprives the other from help so desperately needed. The unequal gender roles that have been established over time threaten to tear apart, rather than stabilize the family. The inequality between man and woman has been a concept long accepted but now we see the fallacies of our logic.
[...] Love may have been felt by both people but it was not the love that Solomon believes is essential in any lasting relationship. That type of love he describes these couples needed was romantic love. In comparison love of God was not enough and is a completely different emotion. The love you share with God can not be the same of that you show your spouse. Romantic love is different all together and without this specific feeling relationships crumble. These [...]
[...] The husband who reaped the benefits of his role in the relationship is left by the wife who found that romantic love is not with the husband. It is romantic love between equals that is more powerful than the love of God or her husband. Inequality in marriage leads to a deterioration of that relationship. Among the many causes of a deteriorating relationship inequality is the most important. Equality is the foundation for a stable marriage and when that is changed it can begin to fade away. [...]
[...] The inequality shown in this marriage is that of a parent and a child. John dominates over every single aspect of the narrator's life. Nora had a life where though her interests might be controlled she was generally free to do as she pleased. In this case the narrator had no freedoms and drove her insane. It also drove her to start resenting and hating John for what he was doing to her. She did not know that his actions were a direct result of her worsening condition but his control of her life made her start to rebel against his word. [...]
[...] Helmer treats Nora like a doll by telling her what to do, what to like, and the reasons why she should. By marrying Helmer and continuing the domination her father started, nothing changed. Rather than committing to marriage, she was simply handed over to Helmer. This controlling influence on her life after all these years led to her being complacent until now. The fact that she said she pretended gives us insight that she was aware of this inequality but had neither the courage nor the means to do something about it. [...]
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