"When well-being comes from engaging our strengths and virtues, our lives are imbued with authenticity." One of the most important aspects of the psychology of happiness is meaning. This is when you have figured out your strengths and are using them to develop yourself as well as others around you. According to Seligman, the less selfish a person is, the happier they are. You realize that every little thing you do contributes to a larger goal. This means that a person don't just act blindly; they think about the things they want to do and the effect it may have on themselves and others. For example, a person who values meaning might choose to volunteer with the homeless rather than accepting an offer to work in a law firm. Though some people may disagree with this choice, one might argue that to fight for the greater good is better than doing things merely for the sake of money.
[...] The extreme end of this is to state that you enjoy this attention and perhaps like the person as well. Note that your partner can try to retain you by telling you that you are right to avoid conflict. They may also tell you that they will change to give you hope of things getting better. Once you are in a serious relationship, love and happiness is about your will, discipline, effort, patience, and reliability. According to psychologist Erich Fromm, people are too into trying to find the perfect person. [...]
[...] Studies have shown that people who are happy tend to deal better with pain and recover from life events easily. People who multitask are more likely to become stressed, hostile, and vulnerable to health problems. Control is also an important aspect in the psychology of happiness. People tend to be happier when they feel as though they are in charge of their lives. They are also happier when they focus on future goals and aims rather than immediate pleasure. For instance, a person might be happy to stay at home and do a paper rather than going to party with their friends. [...]
[...] Stable meaning how much money, status, and resources you have, and that you are generous in sharing them. These are the highest things on a woman's list, especially when they would like to have a family. You should state that you are or can be commitment- oriented. You can do so by speaking of a case in which you were in a committed relationship or were devoted to a past partner. Do not drink too much. A “Beer Goggle” research done by Buss has shown that the more beers men drink (or any alcohol in that matter), the more they will find a woman to be attractive. [...]
[...] Women should try to maintain emotional stability and understand when their partner does not have the amount of time that they need. Withholding of sex, even when angry, can be destructive in a relationship. One must avoid being unkind, cruel, and abusive to your partner to reduce the likeliness of hurt. During studies done by therapist Stephen Mitchell, people often said that everything changed with their partner and that angry feelings had started to develop. This is the case because in the early stages of romance there is a lot of adventure and spontaneity in getting to know your partner. [...]
[...] This means that there should be some sort of connection between who you are as an individual and what it is that you want to do. For example, if you like to play soccer, it would be wise to become a soccer instructor. In order to be happy in your field you should make sure that it is convenient and flexible. You should also make sure that it has meaning and purpose beyond yourself. Csikszentmihalyi would agree that being happy in your field is not based on how much money or power you have. [...]
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